Chapter 11

Struggling in Your Marriage?

All couples experience ups and downs in their relationship. Through the ups and downs, however, it is critical for couples to continue watering the seeds of their “I do”, to evaluate and monitor the state of their relationship, and to commit to being better husbands and wives on a regular basis. For couples with serious relational challenges, know that with God’s grace, healing is possible. In fact, research has shown that a large percentage of unhappy marriages become happy again. See below for some resources to help you on the journey of renewal.

  • Retrouvaille is for married couples facing difficult challenges in their relationship. It is a Catholic ministry that welcomes all faiths and helps couples restore their marriage and rebuild a loving relationship using a three-phase approach to improve communication, build stronger marriages, and help struggling couples reconnect. Please click here to register for an upcoming retreat in San Diego.
  • Third Option hopes to inspire and encourage couples to build stronger relationships. There is a “third option” besides enduring a painful marriage and divorce. There are currently Third Options classes held via ZOOM and in-person in Fullerton, CA. Also coming soon to San Diego.
  • RESTORE Catholic Marriage is an online, self-led marriage resources that gives spouses the opportunity and tools necessary to heal and restore their relationship.
  • The Diocesan Office for Family Life & Spirituality maintains a list of Catholic/Catholic-friendly marriage therapists who can integrate the Church’s teaching on marriage & family into their therapeutic practice. Please call the office for referrals (858-490-8292).

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About the Coat of Arms

Bishop Pulido’s coat of arms is divided into four quarters with wavy horizontal lines from top to bottom. The blue and white lines represent the Blessed Virgin Mary. They also suggest water, which alludes to Jesus washing the feet of His disciples and to the waters of baptism. The red and gold lines represent the Holy Spirit and fire. The colors also can be seen as referring to the Blood that (along with water) poured from Jesus’ side at His crucifixion, as well as to the bread (gold) and wine (red) transformed into the Eucharist. At the center is a roundel featuring a symbolic representation of the “mandatum” (washing of the feet), which he believes exemplifies service to all humanity. The roundel’s outer edge is a line composed of small humps; it is borrowed from the coat of arms of the Diocese of Yakima, where Bishop Pulido served as a priest before being named a bishop.

About the Coat of Arms

Bishop Pham’s coat of arms depicts a red boat on a blue ocean, which is crisscrossed by diagonal lines suggesting a fisherman’s net. This symbolizes his ministry as a “fisher of men,” as well as how his own father had been a fisherman. The boat is also a symbol of the Church, which is often referred to as the “barque of Peter.” At the center of the sail is a red beehive (a symbol of the bishop’s baptismal patron saint, St. John Chrysostom, who was known as a “honey-tongued” preacher). The beehive is surrounded by two green palm branches (an ancient symbol of martyrdom; the bishop’s ancestors were among Vietnam’s first martyrs). The eight red tongues of fire around the boat are a symbol of the Holy Spirit and a representation of the diversity of ethnic and cultural communities. The red of the boat, the beehive and the tongues of fire allude to the blood of the martyrs.

About the Coat of Arms

The coat of arms combines symbols that reflect Bishop Bejarano’s spiritual life and priestly ministry. The main part of the shield shows four wavy vertical lines on a gold background. These represent flowing waters. This alludes to his chosen motto and also symbolizes the graces that come from the Divine life to quench our thirst for God. The upper third of the shield is red because it is borrowed from the coat of arms of the Order of Mercy, of which the Bishop’s patron saint, Raymond Nonnatus, was a member. The central symbol resembles a monstrance because St. Raymond is often depicted holding one. The Eucharist is Bishop Bejarano’s inspiration for his vocation. It was through the Eucharist that he received his call to the priesthood at age seven and which keeps his faith and his ministry going. It represents the call to offer oneself as a living sacrifice. The monstrance is flanked on either side by an image of the Sacred Heart, alluding to the mercy of God and echoing the idea of a sacrificial offering of oneself united to the sacrifice of Christ, and of a rose for Our Lady. It is an allusion to Our Lady of Guadalupe, patroness of the Americas, and highlights the bishop’s Hispanic heritage.

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