Chapter 11

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Catholic Weddings

Since the Rite of Marriage involves a commitment to the Church on the part of the couple, as well as to the couple on the part of the Church, a sacramental marriage between two Catholics normally takes place within the context of the community’s Eucharistic gathering. This public exchange of vows in the Church is what we call a “wedding” (from an old English word meaning ‘to pledge’). If celebrating the Rite of Marriage outside Mass is pastorally appropriate (for interfaith or ecumenical couples, for example), then other options can be explored. Since it is the couple themselves who administer the sacrament to each other, the Rite of Marriage only requires the additional presence of a Church representative who presides over the Rite (typically a priest or deacon), as well as two additional witnesses.

 

As a couple nears the conclusion of their preparation process for marriage, they naturally begin to focus more on preparing and planning for the wedding itself. Please scroll down for a list of recommended resources and materials to assist you in planning for the big day. For more information on the marriage preparation process itself (which typically begins 9-12 months before the wedding), please click here.

Catholic Wedding Resources

PS. Naturally, San Diego attracts a lot of “destination weddings”. If you are getting married in San Diego but don’t plan to reside here, please reach out as soon as possible to your local parish/diocese for guidance on marriage prep!

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About the Coat of Arms

Bishop Pulido’s coat of arms is divided into four quarters with wavy horizontal lines from top to bottom. The blue and white lines represent the Blessed Virgin Mary. They also suggest water, which alludes to Jesus washing the feet of His disciples and to the waters of baptism. The red and gold lines represent the Holy Spirit and fire. The colors also can be seen as referring to the Blood that (along with water) poured from Jesus’ side at His crucifixion, as well as to the bread (gold) and wine (red) transformed into the Eucharist. At the center is a roundel featuring a symbolic representation of the “mandatum” (washing of the feet), which he believes exemplifies service to all humanity. The roundel’s outer edge is a line composed of small humps; it is borrowed from the coat of arms of the Diocese of Yakima, where Bishop Pulido served as a priest before being named a bishop.

About the Coat of Arms

Bishop Pham’s coat of arms combines the Diocese of San Diego’s coat of arms on the left side, and his on the right. On his, a red boat on a blue ocean sits on diagonal lines suggesting a fisherman’s net. This symbolizes his ministry as a “fisher of men,” as well as how his own father had been a fisherman. The boat is also a symbol of the Church, which is referred to as the “barque of Peter.” At the center of the sail is a red beehive (a symbol of the bishop’s baptismal patron saint, St. John Chrysostom, known as a “honey-tongued” preacher). The beehive is surrounded by two green palm branches (an ancient symbol of martyrdom; the bishop’s ancestors were among Vietnam’s first martyrs). The eight red tongues of fire around the boat are a symbol of the Holy Spirit and a representation of the diversity of ethnic communities.

About the Coat of Arms

The coat of arms combines symbols that reflect Bishop Bejarano’s spiritual life and priestly ministry. The main part of the shield shows four wavy vertical lines on a gold background. These represent flowing waters. This alludes to his chosen motto and also symbolizes the graces that come from the Divine life to quench our thirst for God. The upper third of the shield is red because it is borrowed from the coat of arms of the Order of Mercy, of which the Bishop’s patron saint, Raymond Nonnatus, was a member. The central symbol resembles a monstrance because St. Raymond is often depicted holding one. The Eucharist is Bishop Bejarano’s inspiration for his vocation. It was through the Eucharist that he received his call to the priesthood at age seven and which keeps his faith and his ministry going. It represents the call to offer oneself as a living sacrifice. The monstrance is flanked on either side by an image of the Sacred Heart, alluding to the mercy of God and echoing the idea of a sacrificial offering of oneself united to the sacrifice of Christ, and of a rose for Our Lady. It is an allusion to Our Lady of Guadalupe, patroness of the Americas, and highlights the bishop’s Hispanic heritage.

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